I don't think the airbag control is as hard as I thought originally. This is what I am thinking so far.....
Air tank set up as normal OBA (electric cut off etc, blowoff safety, check valve etc....more detailed write with pics when I do it.)
I found this company
http://www.aimind.com/
they do the valve pictured. This valve has a inlet from the tank and an outlet to the air bag as well as a outlet for a gauge and one to the atmosphere. So tank plugs in, bags plug in on other side, gauge plugs in and a hose to a safe place (probably with breather on end) that vents the the atmosphere. The valve is switched by twelve volt. So I figure two relays with 12v running to them and then a momentary throw switch to the relay. The momentary throw will be DPDT so pushing up will control valve to let air in (inflating air bags), throwing switch down will deflate air bags.
SIMPLE! I figured momentary switch so you can't go overboard and one solenoid valve for both airbags (airbags connected by running hose to a T piece and then to solenoid). Ideally you could have one solenoid for each bag and one switch for each solenoid or go more and more complex depends how much you want to spend. For example you could have a system so one switch inflates all four/two at same time but another to do each individually. I figure I am only using it when carrying weight and trailer (with dirtbike, fuel camping stuff etc...and dual tyre carrier when i get there) so most of the time it will have minimum pressure.
Solenoid is $55US and $50 shipping.