I have never been held back, we dont really even ask each other. If she doesnt want to come then ive never been told not to go, i just have tell her what we're doin when we'll be back and shes fine. Then it works the same for her when she has some stupid idea and i really dont wanna go i dont stop her.
Its a pretty cool setup. But then im not stupid either I married her as soon as i could.
Mind you we dont have kids either that probably helps.