Anthony, you need them to come to you mate. Stuff the chivalry if they are keen they will make the effort. Give and take is part of friendship and relationships.
As for finding someone you need to be content within your own self before you can include someone else in it.
I was single for many years until l took up camping and 4wdriving, joined a forum and met up with like minded people. Met the cheekiest bugga and haven't looked back, did l go looking for it? nope, but all was good in my world and l was content and it just happened.
Don't give up hope it will happen when it's meant to