the service 4wd light is very unhelpful, cos it is just a general light and can refer to almost any problem in the car - we have just bought a scanguage to try to help in these situations.
Having just replaced the OEM battery in our 2006 commander, it was doing almost exactly the same things as you are describing, but couldn't get it to start without using the jumper pack - luckily we cart it most places with us. There was just one cell in the battery that was stuffed. New battery now and all is good.
So, as suggested above, try a new battery first, before you worry about other errors.
Recently, our car went into limp mode because the brake light switch blew - very helpful. The car hasn't tried anything since the scanguage was attached - but I know its waiting for its moment