I had to rotate the captive nut in its cage 90 degrees after opening up the cage, looks like an OEM manufacturing error, you will understand if you open it up to look at, you can check if its not good if you have the arm out, put your finger on the nut from the outside, if you can move it laterally about 10 mm each way then your a candidate for t his fix.
When you see the nut, you will understand that the rotation of the nut at the back which is part of a rectangular base plate that after rotation it fits the captive housing quite snuggly.
I also bushed that darn great hole that the bolt goes through.
No need to overtighten to NOT get it to hold now, doh, just normal bolt tightening now, no movement, thumping, clunking or cracking, all fixed, from what I gather its one of those things that should be on a recall list.
Now all we need to do is redesign those junk bushings on the end of the upper suspension arms. I cant believe that such a cheap and crappy item is produced, and I dont think its all that safe either.
Damn, I just broke a string in my violin....... Ill be back