Hi Rob and welcome to the world of ZG Grand Cherokees. not sure about your headers, have you tried the 4X4 Point site or maybe JPR, Jeep Parts Recyclers, I've used both of them before for my ZG.
Your problem with the key fob may be one of two things. First, make sure that the batteries in the hand piece are making good contact. over time the little metal tabs that they make contact with can bend slightly and not make good contact with the batteries. Be careful though and do not bend them to far or you may risk breaking them off the circuit board.
Second, disconnect the cars battery at the negative terminal and leave it off for a few minutes, then re connect it. This forces the three on-board computers to go back to their initial settings. This model Jeep has a known idiosyncrasy with the remote locking system and when it plays up, which it does if you park too close to phone/ microwave towers all you need do is to disconnect then re connect the battery. I have a battery quick disconnect on mine to save needing tools to do the job.
Do not try to bypass the security system, you risk having it go into lock down and then its a dealers repair needed ( if they remember how to, that is).
Another little tip about this model, if you get engine sensor problems check that the connectors are actually making good contact. My "96 model has round pin connectors and they have given me no end of problems until I remembered about a problem I had some thirty years ago with a system using similar plugs. The fix was simple. Using a very small thin screwdriver ( jewellers type) just close the sockets in slightly, this restores the electrical contact and fixes most of the problems.
Have fun with old bus, they are a great model. I tow a lightweight van with mine.
Cheers, Denis.