Three days after the latest reflash "Service 4WD System" returned.
I pulled the FDCM/EDIFF fuse, closed bonnet, started engine, moved into Reverse then Drive, back to Park without moving. Switched-off and replaced fuse. 4WD worked again. Next day the gremlin was back.
Now I must investigate my wiring and actuator to determine if I can avoid the $500 for a replacement actuator.